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Dr Pedram Shojai speaks with the bestselling Author of Big Love – The Power of Living With a Wide Open Heart. Find it here: http://www.scottstabile.com/ Scott explains that everyone starts out life essentially the same as everyone else and our “stories” are created from whatever that foundation may have been and then developed and influenced by all manner of coincidence, circumstances, choices and chance.
At the young age of only 14 Scott had the tragic misfortune of witnessing both of his parents being murdered by burglars at the family business. Then, only nine months later his brother died from an opioid addiction. These intense losses left Scott feeling fearful, enraged and alone.
These losses also led Scott to join a cult because of the acceptance, love and compassion the leader and followers offered him. It took thirteen years but he finally gathered the strength and enlightenment to excommunicate himself from the cult’s deceptive teachings. He had finally overcome and survived his difficult circumstances. The type of things that can never be completely forgotten because they’re what makes us human.
Finding What He Needed
Through much soul searching, and a failed children’s film, Scott discovered the hard way, what he had been yearning for. Following the suggestion of a friend, he created a Facebook page hoping to generate some followers. Struggling still, to gain a following, he quit posting the typical phoney image that so many try to portray. He began to pour out his ugly bitterness and rage, he quickly discovered that he was gaining the connections he’d been desiring. People were thanking him for sharing his raw but honest feelings. It helped them realize that they weren’t alone in their trials. Some of these posts gave birth to Big Love. Scott says authenticity was the key to making connections and learning unconditional love. He says that in reality, all people are actually smelly, ugly and sometimes disagreeable. He came to recognize that the enlightenment and forgiveness only comes through understanding, empathy, love and acceptance of the ugliness and struggle of life that we all are.
Scott recognizes that society has become overly dependent upon social media and people try to portray an image of living a perfectly beautiful life. All while we look in our mirrors with harsh criticism, rejection and judgement. Scott believes that Social Media has created some very lonely souls and discovered that being purely authentic generated much more empathetic interactions. Most of humanity is typically feeling more alone than ever. The comparison and competition is appalling and our destructive society seems to believe that LOVE is an easy and simply ethereal energy. We continue to rely on external functions and chemical dependency including, drugs, alcohol, religion, and cultic teachings in an effort to find comfort for the pain, fear and anger as a medicinal treatment of avoidance. Big Love just may contain the answers that you’ve been searching for. Get your copy of Big Love Here!